It has now been six months since I joined eHarmony. At this time, I have only met one man and it wasn't a match. As I've mentioned, I generally receive "matches" that are only "of possible interest" in the opinion of the algorithm.
In order to have more success on the site, I have opened up my location to attract a wider group of potential dates and to allow anyone in the world to be connected with me. This has provided more potential matches which increases during promotional time frames. However, I have received notes stating that some matches aren't officially members of eHarmony and they provide an alternate email to reach them. I immediately delete these options. If they aren't connected through the site and willing to take the steps provided then how do I know that they are legitimate? A part of me feels that I may receive a note via email asking for funds or information that are part of phishing scams.
What I am finding on the eHarmony are more technical glitches. I often receive the same "matches"
that I've rejected and appear to have a loop of the same 7 profiles for
the past two months or so. Of these 7 "matches", 4 are blank profiles with no pictures or in-depth information. I dismiss these, but it doesn't prevent them from being presented again. I am unsure why this continues.
Additionally, I discovered that some profiles listed on the "What if" page are no longer available when I click to view them. It simply states, "xxx has left eHarmony allowing for new exciting matches to be sent your way." (This isn't the exact wording.) Somehow these unavailable profiles become part of my new "matches" within days. It is unclear if they are now current or still removed from the site. It's confusing. To me, it appears that the algorithm is picking up on my potential interest via the click and opting to present the profile, valid or otherwise.
My belief is that there are many more women on the site than men in my age category. I am unable to substantiate these beliefs at this time. Unless I open up a forum to communicate with women on eHarmony and poll the information, it's just a gut feeling.
Ultimately, I feel that eHarmony isn't working because the power is in the algorithm. I can't search, choose or view anything that isn't presented to me. There are no gathering options, either virtual or physical, to allow any other possibilities. With this all in mind, I believe that the remaining 6 months on my profile will continue to be unsuccessful.
I am now curious as to how Match.com would work. It appears that they allow people on the site to have some say in who they meet and what is available. I don't know if there numbers will be any better, but at least I don't have to sit back and wait for an algorithm to send me something. With Match.com, I may have some sense of control and be able to do more to ensure meeting new men.
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